Signs that you are in a toxic relationship
A toxic relationship quite literally drains the life from you. If you are experiencing some of the following with your partner or they are exhibiting some of these behaviours, perhaps it is time to re-evaluate your situationship (because it is no longer a relationship), go for therapy with your partner or cut loose if the situation has become really difficult and dangerous.
- A controlling partner makes all the decisions and tells the other what to do, what to wear, or who to spend time with. He or she is unreasonably jealous, manipulative and/or tries to isolate the other partner from his or her friends and family.
- A toxic partner tries to use intimidation and threats of violence or break-up or attempt to separate the other partner from family and friends to make him/her fearful or timid and “malleable”.
- Another dangerous sign is hostility and antagonism. The partner would always pick a fight with the other just to make the other person change their stance/behaviour.
- When the prevailing ambiance of your relationship is hostile, then there is big trouble. A hostile environment is a limiting one where you can never thrive or bloom.
- When a partner makes fun of the opinions and interests of the other or destroys the partner’s property intentionally, puts him down verbally or otherwise and is consistently condescending whether in public or private it is toxic. The disrespectful graduates into emotional or mental abuse and attitude destroys your self-esteem.
- A toxic partner has no regard for your family and friends.
- You do not want to be with a pathological liar. Lying or keeping information from the other especially one that directly affects the other person or both of you, stealing and dishonesty is another dangerous sign.
- When your partner feels that he or she “cannot live without” you and actually threatens to do something drastic (like suicide or murder) if the relationship ends is either a manipulative on or an unhealthy dependence that can quickly escalate.
- Never risk your life by staying in a relationship where your partner uses force (such as hitting, slapping, grabbing, or shoving) to get his way. Physical violence in a relationship is degrading and demeaning in every way.
- Also, When a partner is violent or is requesting to be physically abused it’s a dangerous sign.
- Sexual violence is another sign of toxicity in a relationship. None of the partners ‘owes’ the other sex, it must always be consensual, so when a partner pressures or forces the other into sexual activity against his or her will or without consent it is an act of violence.
If you are the perpetrator of any of these harmful actions in a relationship, you need to stop and get immediate help and if possible get the help with your partner who has been the recipient/victim.