What you should know about bullying (1)
Bullying and Bullies
Bullying has been around for thousands of years. Many people, especially bullies and those that are not in the direct line of fire believe that bullying is just harmless teasing and not that serous, but this is false because bullying is a contributing factor in a large number of suicides and depression.
Bullying is a big problem and bullies often pick on someone they think they have power over. It makes the victim become or feel hurt, scared, sick, lonely, harassed, embarrassed, lose confidence and entirely miserable.
Most times, especially as portrayed in movies we expect the victims of bullying to fight back but in most cases, the bullies are physically stronger than their victims making the prey’s attempts to fight back futile.
Why Bullies Act The Way They Do
Although, some bullies have a big ego, a lot of them are insecure and put others down to make them feel better about themselves.
Some are looking for attention. They might think bullying is a way to be popular or to get what they want.
Some bullies come from families where everyone is angry consequently, they act with violence believing that being angry, calling names, and pushing people around is a normal way to act.
Also, there are some who are simply copycats. Following a bandwagon and doing what they’ve seen someone else do.
There are instances where we have bullies who have been bullied themselves; these ones are subconsciously giving out what they have received.
Sometimes, bullies know that what they’re doing or saying hurts other people and on the other hand, we have bullies who may not really be aware of how hurtful their actions can be. Most bullies don’t understand or care about the feelings of others.
Other Acts of Bullying Apart From Physical Assaults
Besides physical assaults, acts of bullying also include the following:
Verbal Attacks: such as name calling to outright insults, aimed at making the other person to feel worthless, unwanted, not good enough or not good at all, suggesting that the bully is somehow superior and powerful.
Body Shaming: such as calling someone fat or thin or ugly. This can be said directly and outrightly with spite or implied, maliciously aimed at eroding self-confidence and evoking a negative feeling or hatefulness about one’s own body.
Social Isolation: An example is when people start avoiding (a) certain person(s). Clearly and openly ostracising them. It may mean a deliberate unkind exclusion of certain person(s) from the group or doing things to them to make them leave the group.
Cyberbullying: this is most popular in this generation. With a few strokes on a computer, a bully can ruin someone’s reputation or his whole life.
Do you recognise these traits in yourself, ward, children or anyone close to you?